I can tell it's going to be another long night...my law exam is in 2 days and I still have a tonne to study(why can't I have chosen a subject that isn't constantly changing? Sigh, but I digress) I just had dinner for the second time and yes, I know how it's unhealthy to eat so late at night (indigestion and all that shit..I know, I just choose not to care at this particular moment), but it's also unhealthy to get all obsessed about your weight and what you eat and blah blah that you end up with fat issues and have to spend your Friday afternoons lying on a sofa, surrendering your soul to a shrink while he tells you about all the issues that you have until eventually, you have the urge to jump straight out of the nearest window.
Well that was dramatic.Heh.
I've been thinking...and I reckon it's time you men out there got a lesson about how to treat a girl. Enough with the mixed signals, the not calling back and juggling a million girls at once, alright? Let's face it, we might be from Venus and you guys might be from Mars, but we're stuck together now and it doesn't look like theres any escaping that fact any time soon. And frankly, most of you suck. What? It's true.
1. Be truthful. There's no need to lie.
I know, sounds simple, doesn't it? Really obvious. A complete no-brainer. Yet, it's funny how many guys forget this from time to time. Or in some cases, the majority of the time. Oh trust me, I'm not saying we females don't, but since I'm one myself, you'll have to look past my prejudice.
I'm not saying you have to be brutally, you-look-hideous honest. But if you don't appreciate our attempts to steal your affections, tell us. We might be hurt at first, but when alls said and done, it's better than being unfairly lead on .Think a particular piece of clothing we own isn't too flattering? Tell us, really, we appreciate your honest input. At least I know I do. Not that I'm saying I won't continue on wearing it if I like it. And for god's sake, if you cheat on us, be a man and 'fess up! Sure, she might break up with you and call you and ass...but you CHEATED on her...you don't need to be a bigger jerk than you already are. Just be honest.
2. If she needs to vent out about a personal problem, don't try to fix it. Just listen to her.
If she's opening up to you, congrats, she's into you enough to let you in..and she trusts you enough to show you that yes, she is indeed a human being with a less than perfect life(and if you have the urge to run away, you might need to take a peek into your pants to see your balls are still there). The chances are she just needs someone to listen to, or if she asks, for some advice. She doesn't need you to fix the problem, she's perfectly capable of that herself. Anyway, thats what her girlfriends are for. Just listen to her, k? And do not, I repeat, DO NOT tell her to calm down or chill just because you think it isn't something worth being upset over (unless in exceptional cases). It's a girl thing..please bear with us.
3. Compliment her. And genuinely mean it
I'm sure there isn't a single girl on earth who doesn't go all warm inside when the boy of her affections compliments her. I'm not saying you have to tell her how pretty she is every single minute(because that could turn seriously annoying. And well, sad). But when she makes the effort to dress up for a special night out, notice and appreciate it. And please, don't be fake about it..we can tell when you're lying.
4. Don't put her on a pedestal.
As easy as it is to think otherwise at times, we are not goddesses. Nor are you doormats. You are our boyfriends. Our equal. Yes, I know there are some personalities out there who strongly believe otherwise..but what would the world be without a couple of crazies here and there, right? I know I for one, couldn't date someone who constantly puts himself down and thinks himself unworthy of my affections. If you keep thinking you're shit, can you really blame us when we treat you as such?
5. Accept her for who she is.
At the end of the day, I think this is what everyone wants. Acceptance. Someone who adores you for the person you are. Everyone has flaws, but that's what makes a person a person. I reckon it would be annoying as hell to date someone who was perfect all the time. You might not love some of our personality traits, but we don't love every single thing you do (fart jokes? we're not too big on that) yet we still love you, don't we? If you can't accept a girl for who she really is, you shouldn't be dating her in the first place. And don't EVER try to change her. If you can't deal with some stuff, walk away. If she wants to change too, support her, but that should be up to her to decide. It all comes down to whether you respect her. If you do, you shouldn't have the need to change her, because you already respect her as a person.
There. There's a million other things you need to be doing, but I guess you'll just have to figure the rest out on your own. Honestly, it's not that hard.
Well that was dramatic.Heh.
I've been thinking...and I reckon it's time you men out there got a lesson about how to treat a girl. Enough with the mixed signals, the not calling back and juggling a million girls at once, alright? Let's face it, we might be from Venus and you guys might be from Mars, but we're stuck together now and it doesn't look like theres any escaping that fact any time soon. And frankly, most of you suck. What? It's true.
1. Be truthful. There's no need to lie.
I know, sounds simple, doesn't it? Really obvious. A complete no-brainer. Yet, it's funny how many guys forget this from time to time. Or in some cases, the majority of the time. Oh trust me, I'm not saying we females don't, but since I'm one myself, you'll have to look past my prejudice.
I'm not saying you have to be brutally, you-look-hideous honest. But if you don't appreciate our attempts to steal your affections, tell us. We might be hurt at first, but when alls said and done, it's better than being unfairly lead on .Think a particular piece of clothing we own isn't too flattering? Tell us, really, we appreciate your honest input. At least I know I do. Not that I'm saying I won't continue on wearing it if I like it. And for god's sake, if you cheat on us, be a man and 'fess up! Sure, she might break up with you and call you and ass...but you CHEATED on her...you don't need to be a bigger jerk than you already are. Just be honest.
2. If she needs to vent out about a personal problem, don't try to fix it. Just listen to her.
If she's opening up to you, congrats, she's into you enough to let you in..and she trusts you enough to show you that yes, she is indeed a human being with a less than perfect life(and if you have the urge to run away, you might need to take a peek into your pants to see your balls are still there). The chances are she just needs someone to listen to, or if she asks, for some advice. She doesn't need you to fix the problem, she's perfectly capable of that herself. Anyway, thats what her girlfriends are for. Just listen to her, k? And do not, I repeat, DO NOT tell her to calm down or chill just because you think it isn't something worth being upset over (unless in exceptional cases). It's a girl thing..please bear with us.
3. Compliment her. And genuinely mean it
I'm sure there isn't a single girl on earth who doesn't go all warm inside when the boy of her affections compliments her. I'm not saying you have to tell her how pretty she is every single minute(because that could turn seriously annoying. And well, sad). But when she makes the effort to dress up for a special night out, notice and appreciate it. And please, don't be fake about it..we can tell when you're lying.
4. Don't put her on a pedestal.
As easy as it is to think otherwise at times, we are not goddesses. Nor are you doormats. You are our boyfriends. Our equal. Yes, I know there are some personalities out there who strongly believe otherwise..but what would the world be without a couple of crazies here and there, right? I know I for one, couldn't date someone who constantly puts himself down and thinks himself unworthy of my affections. If you keep thinking you're shit, can you really blame us when we treat you as such?
5. Accept her for who she is.
At the end of the day, I think this is what everyone wants. Acceptance. Someone who adores you for the person you are. Everyone has flaws, but that's what makes a person a person. I reckon it would be annoying as hell to date someone who was perfect all the time. You might not love some of our personality traits, but we don't love every single thing you do (fart jokes? we're not too big on that) yet we still love you, don't we? If you can't accept a girl for who she really is, you shouldn't be dating her in the first place. And don't EVER try to change her. If you can't deal with some stuff, walk away. If she wants to change too, support her, but that should be up to her to decide. It all comes down to whether you respect her. If you do, you shouldn't have the need to change her, because you already respect her as a person.
There. There's a million other things you need to be doing, but I guess you'll just have to figure the rest out on your own. Honestly, it's not that hard.
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4 comments:
do u no how many guys are in this world?how many have u met?1000? maybe.but i am sure u havnt even met 1/10000th of the earths population.are u telin me,dat every single guy is the same? o are u telin me dat most of them are same?i find it hard to beleive.maybe some of the qualities are same with some of the guys.but how can most of the guys suck? give me a reason why u say "most"
well the the five points of how to treat a gurl refers to boyfreinds dho.ekam as u study law.i think u wil truely understnd why ppl lie dho.laywers case eh naganee dho.nagaa iru dekolhun ves vaahaka dhahka ehnu.ekam onli one truth.obviously one lies.why?
you wud say it u wil apriciate it wen a guy says the truth, but we onli no it wen the moment cums.
i do agree with u in the secnd point.but wats the meaning of "a girls thing" ?
do u reali think men do not have fylings and emotions? maybe the hormones madhu vedhaane dho? but there are guys in the world hu are weak.emotionally i mean.are u telin me if they think they are shit, u wil treat them as shit? wont u jus try to help him? change the way they think? and be "a gurl?" :P
accepting for hu she is? hehe.yea neva change not even for the ppl u love.try neva expecting.which means u wil jus accept wats wat.
i think,maybe u are a lil bit of depressed.cx u have been treated sum wat like the oposite of the things u mentioned above.but dont u think, all gurls sucks too? jus think abt it? doesnt reali make any sense there.
wat a long coment :p haha.
anyways.take care. hope u open ur mind " jus a lil bit" and think of wat i jus said.and getwelsoon.of the mental sickness o wat eva u are goin thru
First, this is just my opinion. Thats wat blogs are for..dho. To express ur opinion..ur thoughts on stuff. And ure welcome to express urs too...seriusly...but lets not get personal here. But just for the record, i wasnt treated liek shit, im not depressed and i dont have a mental sickness.
Cmon, i cant possibly refer to every possible situation..but in general, and i think every girl wud agree with me, we'd liek to be told the truth. Wudnt u?
The meaning of a gurls thing is that it doesnt make any sense and it mite not be fair, but it happens to us. ok? we get emotional. And maybe this is just me...but i cant imagine myself dating someone who has 0 self confidence. Its not that i want someone perfect...but he has to have SOME confidence in himself. Beybe ah ulheveyne tha abadhu thimanna worthy ehnooney hithah araigen ulhey meehakaa ekkoh? Personally, i want a bf...not some charity case
Hmmm...thaathu nubunamennu dho u cant change for the ones u love ey..but that shud be the gurls own decision. In my opinion, u shud be ready to accept her for who she is..and yea i kno no one knos entirely wat theyre getting into...so if u see something u cant accept, and the gurl doesnt want to change..just walk away..
anyways..that was long too hehe...anyways just defendign my opinion here
hmmm, nice argument both of u. i think both of u have got good points. i agree with amhar about some guys being emotional or having little confidence. thats no reason to diss em. if he tells u stuff like that it jes means he's comfortable with u. that he trusts u. and shouldnt u being the gf help him and atleast try to give him back that confidence? everyone will have flaws and problems with them. thats not the point where u say u shud accept him for hu he is and so u shud walk out on him cos u didnt like his low self esteem. (am i making any sense here?)and pls dont say that ur jes referring to guys with 0 confidence. u know thats not what u meant.
and i agree with u when u say that its jes what u want in a guy and theres no promlem with that. u dont HAVE to be all perfect n all and accept everything. ull have things that u adore and like in guys and it neednt be the smae as everyone else. and i do agree with the other stuff that u have written. but i dont think its a problem if the guy TRIES to change some things about her as long as its not her personality. like u said as long as she WANTS to change. all an all, i liked the points u have mentioned. its different. usually its jes honesty, handsome, caring, loving blah blah blah. but uve explained and justified ur points pretty well. nice.
this is an awesomely awesome post.
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